ARE YOU SINGLE....CHECK YOUR
PALYFULNESS NATURE
To
attract a potential mate, it takes more than the looks and
intelligence. According to a study carried by researchers in
Pennsylvania in the US,playfulness,which
was identified as an important aspect people look at before saying 'I
do' may serve an evolutionary role in human mating preferences by
signaling positive qualities to potential long-term mates. "Just
as birds display bright plumage or coloration, men may attract women
by showing off expensive cars or clothing. In the same vein,
playfulness in a male may signal to females that he is nonaggressive
and less likely to harm them or their offspring.....
A woman's
playfulness, on the other hand, may signal her youth and
fertility."said Garry Chick, professor and head of the
Department of Recreation, Park and Tourism Management.
Chick
and colleagues Careen Yarnal, associate professor of recreation, park
and tourism management, and Andrew Purrington, lecturer in the
Department of Recreation, Park and Tourism Management, expanded on a
previous survey that included a list of 13 possible characteristics
that individuals might seek in prospective mates. To that original
list, they added three new traits: "playful," "sense
of humor" and "fun loving." The authors gave the
survey to 164 male and 89 female undergraduate students, ages 18 to
26.
Of
the 16 items, "sense of humor," "fun loving" and
"playful" ranked second, third and fourth, respectively,
among traits that females sought in males. Males rated three
traits--"physically attractive," "healthy," and
"good heredity"--that are characteristic of female
fertility as significantly more desirable than females rated them in
males.
The
team reported its results online in this month's issue of the
American Journal of Play. So what do local men and women think
about the research? Yvonne Andiva, a resident in Nairobi says that
she cannot date a dull man at all costs. She told me that her man is
full of humor and makes her smile all the time they are together.
“when I set my eyes on him, I immediately knew that I wanted to
spend my life with him, his pick up lines were just humorous and no
lady could hold back her smile.” Said Yvonne. His humorous nature
was a factor. Juliet Barasa concurs with Yvonne. She says that women
need a man who makes them smile especially when they are depressed as
a result of work or anything else. Miss Barasa told me that a man
should act as an entertainment tool for her woman otherwise she might
seek such services elsewhere.
On
the flip side, Kennedy Akida, a resident in Mombasa told me that he
cannot make a move on a woman who appears to be serious faced. Such
will signal that the woman will cause chaos in future. “My woman
should be outgoing, one who loves to talk,laugh and dance.” said
Akida. Victor Muisyo, a resident of Nairobi however says that it is a
man's responsibility to make a woman cheerful. He told me that women
prefer to be made to smile therefore a man should be full of humor.
Lucy
Hassa, a resident of Nairobi however says that humor nature of a man
will signal an unforseen problems. She told me that a man who is full
of humor and fun loving is likely to attract other women which will
end up causing squabble in his relationship.She said that she will
only date a man who is polite and who does not have too much sense of
humor. This will assure her that the may not draw unwanted attention
from other women. Wilter Bundi, a resident of Kisii agrees with Lucy
saying that men are easy to manipulate creatures.” Once a man
portrays his humorous nature and attracts other women, it is very
rare for them to refuse their advances.”
I
however was able to attend a heated debate of a group of students
from Masinde Muliro University where they were arguing if a man can
date a fun loving woman. Dan Masasabi appeared to differ with the
rest saying that she cannot at all costs date a woman who is fun
loving. He argued that women who love partying and going out is
vulnerable to other men of equal nature. “if I date such a woman,
then my life will be full of insecurities.” Masasabi said. He said
that with HIV/AIDS and other STIs roaming around, it will be very
difficult to trust a woman who loves fun especially the one who goes
to clubs at night. Kevin Lukalo appeared to contest Masasabi's stand
saying that not all women who go to a club are spoilt. “i will not
be surprised that majority of women who go clubbing are not spoilt,”
said Lukalo. He said that women too like men need a place where they
can have fun, release their stress and live a healthy life.
Despite
the opposition, it is clear that people want to be in a relationship
where they are happy. Where they get a lot of fun and cheerfulness
from their counterparts. So if it happens that you do not have a
partner because every time you attempt you fail, then you need to go
back to the drawing board and add to your resume, the humor factor.
You will get.
SAMWEL
BORN MAINA
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